HypnoBirthing® UK

[juju007]

Hello
I'd really like some reassurance that I'm not putting my baby at risk by resisting induction. I'm 41+1 wks with our first baby & 44 yrs old. The registrar has agreed to a scan on Friday when I'll be 41+5 then daily CTG monitoring until 42+3 when I'm booked for induction but not planning on having it if all is well with the baby. I had to push really hard for this consession to hospital protocol & was warned of all kinds of dire risks which have really frightened me, especially as we lost a baby through miscarriage previously. I'm not sure how to handle this fear & feel quite vunerable & weepy. Any suggestions would be very welcome & it would be great to hear from other people who have resisted induction too.
Thanks so much Julie

[mia]

Hi,

Bless you - I really feel for you. It's such a scary process, and so very difficult to do what you feel is right, in the face of such pressure - both implicit and explicit.
I get a lot of calls at this time from worried mum, tearful mums, just needing to hear an antidote to the scaremongering. You are not alone.
Do not forget, that you are not overdue. Statistically, you are perfect. Half of babies haven't been born at 40 weeks, and with first babies, you wouldn't even expect baby to have arrived by 41 weeks - statistically speaking, that is. You are not "overdue" until you are at least 42 weeks, and many babies don't arrive until after 42 weeks, perfectly healthy. I was "over" date with all three of mine, and I looked at all the statistics to assure myself that it was the best thing to wait. After reading me the riot act, the obstetrician wrote "low risk - going home for the week-end" (me, that is, not him!). I'm glad I glanced over to see that. I felt a lot better, because I realised that he only scared me because it's his job - not because he actually believed I needed induction.
The trick is to take it an hour at a time, or at the most, a day at a time. Today, you are doing fine. Every hour counts now, because the chances are that your baby will come in the next week - 95% have arrived by 42 weeks! Between now and Friday is a very long time in baby time. It is the time most first babies come - why should you be any different? We have just written a piece specifically to reassure mums like you - it is a visualisation, and you might like to take a look, to help your mind and body relax into trusting that you and your baby know what they are doing! I didn't write it, but I do love it, and think it will really help.
http://blog.mindfulmamma.co.uk/ If that link doesn't work, go to the website http://www.mindfulmamma.co.uk and then onto our blog. It's the latest, and it's called "to induce or not to induce".
Happy relaxing!

[juju007]

Hi Mia

Thanks so much for your reply & the article & visulisation on Mindfulmamma. I feel so much better having had some reassurance & confident to continue with resistance against induction. I'm also going to see my hypnobirthing practitioner later this week for some fear releasing work. Feeling much more relaxed now & hoping to be in the 95% whose babies arrive before 42 weeks.

Thanks again
Julie

[ockysmith]

Hi Julie,

Have you taken HypnoBirthing classes? I would **highly** recommend that at this stage you get back in touch with your practitioner for a private session to talk through your options and next steps that you can take and perhaps another fear release session, at the very least a phonecall or email with them.

I do this quite a lot with my mums (many have gone 42wks+) - you shouldn't have to worry alone.